THE HIDDEN TRUTH: NO ONE WARNS YOU ABOUT MOTHERHOOD
I will love for you to meet Dolapo. She is a young lively woman, just like you.
She just turned 38 in April. We met recently at a monthly hangout for working mums in the neighborhood, through a mutual friend who narrated how she used to wake up every morning with this feeling that there was no need at all to get out of bed, plan and start the day she had ahead.
Actually, those feelings had been on for a long time as she avoided social events coupled with the fact that she had a low self-esteem. She was practically scared of almost everything and at a time didn’t want to live life anymore.
She says, and I quote ‘’The feelings grew worse shortly after I had my baby girl last year. I noticed those feelings grew worse especially with the fact that I was unable to sleep most nights even when the baby is fast asleep.
My appetite tripled. Impulsive eating became an escape route, nothing around me amused me even the baby that should be a bundle of joy.
“I was getting irritable by the day and aggressive at night. Lashing out in inexplicable anger towards my husband and mum”
“Mood swing was frequent and occasional thought of harming myself or the baby.’’
Irene had a mild case of depression called postpartum depression, PPD affects 75% of new moms between the ages of 25-45
This stat is even higher here in Nigeria, where we have many frustrating factors.
Admitting to having PPD is hard.
Survival is even more difficult, because it is hard to voice out the exact way you feel.
Support from friends and relatives, will go a long way to help, depending on the stage of PPD.
One way to know if you or a loved one has the tendency to fall into PPD is by defining your happiness.
Now the big question is:
Who is in charge of your happiness?
“ARE YOU IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN HAPPINESS”?
Take the Happiness Assessment to find out