7 Fantastic Ways To Practice Self-Love
7 Fantastic Ways To Practice Self-Love
Are you still wondering what the hypes about self-love really is?
Or trying to figure out what your own understanding of self-love is?
Is self-love a form of a motivational quote?
Or a way to have a fantastic relationship?
You rather need to love yourself to have a wonderful relationship.
I have been at a point in life where self-love didn’t exist in my dictionary not out of hatred for myself but due to the fact that living life was set on autopilot without measures. Most efforts were geared towards satisfying the demands of people without setting boundaries and trying to meet expectations all in the name of being nice and generous. Let’s face the fact, there is a divide between loving yourself to give the best of you and being nice to others while forgetting YOU.
In reference to an analogy, Let’s say you have a jug of milk you decide to be giving a glass of milk at intervals to people, you would need to continue to fill the jug in order to have milk to give in the first place. In no time, you would run out of milk and cant give again. Surely, people will move in another direction to look for milk.
Self-love simply means having regard for one’s own well-being and happiness. According to the dictionary.com, Self-love is the instinct by which one’s actions are directed to the promotion of one’s own welfare or well-being, especially an excessive regard for one’s own advantage.
So what is important for you to do to show yourself some love? This shows that self-love is an action.
Your self-love is important to your holistic wellbeing as it supports your physical, psychological and spiritual growth. It helps you accept yourself more in your strength or weaknesses as a person and moves you more to be compassionate to yourself while going through life challenges.
Your self-love is unique to you. You have to be intentional about it, create time and make considerable efforts through your commitments.
Let’s see how the following tips can be of help to practice considerable self-love.
#1. MIND YOUR THOUGHTS
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You need to watch your thought as it becomes the way you feel and your feelings reflect your behaviour. You need to always remind yourself of who you are as being unique and what you do as against people’s expectations of you. Avoid comparison gain as it kills your joy unknowingly. You are unique and created perfectly the way you are. Belief in your person and be grateful as you focus on what works for you while moving forward.
#2. WORK ON YOUR NEEDS
What is your priority need NOW?
Where do you need to put your focus and energy?
Do examine yourself periodically in any aspect of life you perform some roles as a form of appraisal so as not to get overwhelmed.
You could ask for support, help or outsource if required at that point in time.
#3. PRACTICE ROUTINE SELF-CARE
Taking care of yourself is a reflection of your self-love. Understanding your need to take care of yourself is a great leap towards achieving consistent self-care practice. A daily pampering of your skin and hair, choice of good cosmetics, daily exercises, choice of clothing that reflects your personal style and o on are parts of your self-care.You can have a day in a week or month scheduled for your routine pampering or spa day for manicure, pedicure, hair and skin care, massage or detox sessions. A warm detox bath after a hectic day is equally appreciated.
This routine practice makes you appreciate your body more and grateful for it.
#4. SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
Yes, it might sound pushy or awkward. But I tell you, the inability to set healthy boundaries has more untoward effects in relationships. A relationship should be of mutual benefit or symbiotic( in scientific terms. You know, Once a scientist, always a scientist). Yes, as opposed to a parasitic or overbearing one.
This gives respect to what you are capable to offer of yourself at any particular point in time. With sincere intentions, your YES should be YES and your ”NO” for a ”NO” as against expectations.
#5. CHOOSE POSITIVE FRIENDS
Everyone needs the support of people around as humans can’t live in isolation. Choose the right people in your life whom you share similar values, as positive influencers or those that help you move towards achieving your personal goals. You get rid of ”Frenemies’ who make fun of your pain and has no contribution to your growth, happiness or success. It does happen, so be prepared. Delete frenemies and upgrade to a system of positive people in your life.
#6. FORGIVE YOURSELF
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Let go of your past. Yes, it takes time. You can get over it with time by forgiving yourself first. It does help to do less of self-guilt and blames. Accept the choices you made and embrace the consequences in form of mistakes as learning points, not failures. Lessons from past mistakes are additions to your personal growth.
#7. DESIGN YOUR LIFE INTENTIONALLY
Your roles in every aspect of your life are important. You need your self-love for utmost performance while taking up different roles in your spirituality, relationships, health, career/business and so on. Doing what you love is a reflection of your self-love.
Design your life by understanding your priorities at each point in time, decide on how you want to achieve them through planning on how to achieve them and when you need to and committing considerable time and effort. You are able to work with people who influence you positively and able to set healthy boundaries.
Let your jug of love be filled and overflowing with your self-love as you can only give love to another when you have some. Self-love is a PRACTICE, not a WISH.
Are you ready for some self-love?
Get set for a more fulfilled you and healthier relationships towards your holistic wellbeing.
Enjoy and have a fun loving YOU.
Dr Misturah. A. Bello
Be You, Be Happy
(Personal Growth & Wellbeing Expert)
(Transformational Personal Growth, Mindset, Stress Management)
……Towards Your Happiness